Showing posts with label Quotables. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Quotables. Show all posts

18 December 2012

Snippets: The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

Patrick Lencioni's book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team illustrates the process of team building in the workplace.  The majority of the book tells the story of a CEO working to turn a dysfunctional executive team into a strong team, and the principles of team leadership are explored through this narrative.  The book's final short chapter reiterates and expands upon the principles explored in the fictional narrative.
     Lencioni explores five key dysfunctions in his book, and indicates ways in which they can be overcome.  In the last chapter, he describes the dysfunctions in the following way:
1.  The first dysfunction is an absence of trust among team members.  Essentially, this stems from their unwillingness to be vulnerable within the group.  Team members who are not genuinely open with one another about their mistakes and weaknesses make it impossible to build a foundation for trust.
2.  This failure to build trust is damaging because it sets the tone for the second dysfunction:  fear of conflict.  Teams that lack trust are incapable of engaging in unfiltered and passionate debate of ideas.  Instead, they resort to veiled discussions and guarded comments.
3.  A lack of healthy conflict is a problem because it ensures the third dysfunction of a team: lack of commitment.  Without having aired their opinions in the course of passionate and open debate, team members rarely, if ever, buy in and commit to decisions, though they may feign agreement during meetings.
4.  Because of this lack of real commitment and buy-in, team members develop an avoidance of accountability, the fourth dysfunction.  Without committing to a clear plan of action, even the most focused and driven people often hesitate to call their peers on actions and behaviors that seem counterproductive to the good of the team.
5.  Failure to hold one another accountable creates an environment where the fifth dysfunction can thrive.  Inattention to results occurs when team members put their individual needs (such as ego, career development, or recognition) or even the needs of their divisions above the collective goals of the team. (epub edition, 205-06).



The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable

30 November 2012

Snippets: The Hobbit

In honour of the upcoming movie release, I read The Hobbit (for the first time) this month.  The selection below speaks of journeying- the unwilling part of travel when being at home seems much easier than the harder path of completing the quest.

Long days after they had climbed out of the valley and left the Last Homely House miles behind, they were still going up and up and up. It was a hard path and a dangerous path, a crooked way and a lonely and a long. Now they could look back over the lands they had left, laid out behind them far below. Far, far away in the West, where things were blue and faint, Bilbo knew there lay his own country of safe and comfortable things, and his little hobbit-hole. (Kindle location 837)

The Hobbit

28 November 2012

Snippets: The Autobiography of G. K. Chesteron

"No man knows how much he is an optimist, even when he calls himself a pessimist, because he has not really measured the depths of his debt to whatever created him and enabled him to call himself anything. At the back of our brains, so to speak, there was a forgotten blaze or burst of astonishment at our own existence. The object of the artistic and spiritual life was to dig for this submerged sunrise of wonder; so that a man sitting in a chair might suddenly understand that he was actually alive, and be happy."

The Autobiography of G. K. Chesterton

20 November 2012

Snippets: Heaven Without Her

Kitty Foth-Regner's book Heaven Without Her is an interesting mix of personal memoir and apologetics book.  At the heart of the book is Foth-Regner's spiritual journey from agnosticism to Christianity, set against the backdrop of her mother's immanent death.  She moves from rejecting the Christian tradition of her parents, to setting out on a spiritual quest for truth.  Interwoven throughout the story is the intellectual path that she travels; she often describes the impact of various books on her quest for truth.  In one such discussion, she quotes from the writings of A.S.A Jones

"Describing the Bible as a spiritual stereogram, Jones wrote, 'You need two aspects of the intellect to see the reality of God in its pages; you need to utilize both the logical and spiritual (or poetic) component of your thinking to see Him.  If you use only one in the absence of the other, you will lose the effect.  It's like covering one eye' 
Jones pointed out that depth is key to seeing the truth in the Bible just as it is in stereograms.  'I think the reason a lot of people aren't seeing its truth today', she said, 'is that we have become a nation of shallow thinkers'.' (epub edition, 258)

Heaven Without Her: A Desperate Daughter's Search for the Heart of Her Mother's Faith

16 November 2012

Snippets: Succeeding When You're Supposed to Fail

 Rom Brafman's book, Succeeding When You're Supposed to Fail explores the personality traits and character qualities that help people to succeed, even if they have faced significant adversity.  He refers to these successful individuals as "tunnelers", and among other things, notes that those who live accomplished lives in spite of obstacles share a common set of characteristics.  Among other characteristics, Brafman notes that "tunnelers" are those who take responsibility for their current situation, who search out meaning in life, that maintain a calm approach to difficulty and who use humour well.  While most of the book is focused on an individual's personal characteristics and approach to life, the last section of the book highlights the importance of mentors, who Brafman calls satellites.  He also outlines ways in which mentors can help others succeed.  In this context, he notes,

"What qualities, then, define a satellite?  One of the most important ingredients is unconditional positive regard, a term coined by the psychologist Carl Rogers.  It refers to the giving of support and acceptance with no strings attached -- with no quid pro quo.  A strong satellite is there no matter what, without an overriding agenda to govern the interaction" (170).

"It's easy to overlook how important that unconditional support can be.  We're so used to paying attention to the other details of leadership -- whether setting boundaries, providing feedback, or teaching -- that we sometimes forget to communicate the most basic element:  that we're there to be counted on no matter what" (178).

"They key is to be honest and direct while also being caring and respectful.  That's what makes it so challenging.  When we're in a position of power, most of us either think of ourselves as the 'authority figure' who lays down the law, or the 'nice guy/gal' who's there to be a friend and supporter.  Combining the two -- which is what makes for an ideal mentor -- forces us to consistently shift roles (180)".  

  Succeeding When You're Supposed to Fail: The 6 Enduring Principles of High Achievement

11 November 2012

Snippets: Accidental Pharisees

 Larry Osborne's book Accidental Pharisees warns against falling into the errors or Pharisaism in a quest for obedient discipleship.  His book provides a warning against the sin of pride.  He also warns against turning our gifts into rules for others to follow, and inadvertently twisting obedient discipleship into extra-biblical burdens.
A few key points from the book:

When it comes to bruised reeds, smoldering wicks, and the weary saints, Pharisees have no patience. They pile on heavy burdens and lots of guilt. But they don’t lift a finger to make anything easier. They thin the herd at every opportunity. Not so with Jesus. The bruised reed he will not break. The smoldering wick he will not snuff out. To the weary and heavily burdened he offers rest, a light load, and an easy yoke. (Kindle location 349)

Now, obviously I’m not saying that we can live like hell and call ourselves disciples. The Bible is quite clear. If we genuinely know God and love him, we will keep his commandments. But I am saying that our definitions of what it means to be a genuine Christ follower must include room for the weak and the struggling, the frightened and the failing, in order to remain aligned with Jesus rather than with the Pharisees of old. Following Jesus is not a race to see who can be the most radical, sacrificial, knowledgeable, or quickest to burn out. It’s not a contest to see who’s willing to take the hardest road. That’s asceticism, not discipleship (Kindle location 2439)

Accidental Pharisees: Avoiding Pride, Exclusivity, and the Other Dangers of Overzealous Faith

06 November 2012

Snippets: A Hidden Life of Prayer



David McIntyre's classic work, The Hidden Life of Prayer motivates Christians to develop a deep and meaningful life of prayer.  From the book:

He who has a pure heart will never cease to pray, and he who will be constant in prayer shall know what it is to have a pure heart (Kindle location 51)

The equipment for the inner life of prayer is simple, if not always easily secured. It consists particularly of a quiet place, a quiet hour, and a quiet heart. (Kindle location 184)

Our realization of the presence of God may, however, be accompanied with little or no emotion. Our spirits may lie as if dead under the hand of God. Vision and rapture may alike be withdrawn. But we ought not therefore to grow sluggish in prayer. So far from interupting the exercise at such times, we ought to redouble our energy. And it may be that the prayer which goes up through darkness to God will bring to us a blessing such as we have not received in our most favored hours. (Kindle location 339)

Hidden Life of Prayer, The: The Life-blood of the Christian

28 October 2012

Snippets: Embracing Obscurity



On the difference between true and false significance:

There’s a difference between feeling significant or desired because you are needed or because someone wants you to do something for them (to fill up their lacking), and being significant and desired by someone simply because He delights in you. You—not what you can do for Him. This is significance without strings: Value that’s not contingent on what you do or accomplish but entirely dependent on what He has done in creating you, redeeming you, calling you, and leading you. (Kindle location 954)

Four principles for living humbly as a servant leader:

In the spotlight only the humble will survive the long-haul. To avoid burnout and maximize your ability to be a servant-leader, here are four phrases to memorize: 
I don’t know everything.
I have limited time and energy.
I’m not morally invincible.
I’m not irreplaceable.  (Kindle locations 2068-2088)


Embracing Obscurity: Becoming Nothing in Light of God's Everything

27 October 2012

Snippets: Things as They Are

Amy Carmichael's book Things as They Are:  Mission Work in Southern India is collection of stories published in 1903.  She often emphasizes that she would prefer to tell the difficult reality of life as she experiences than to gloss over difficulties in favour of glowing reports.

I read a missionary story "founded on fact" the other day, and the things that happened in that story on these lines were most remarkable. They do not happen here. Practical missionary life is an unexciting thing. It is not sparkling all over with incident. It is very prosaic at times. (Kindle location 535).

The book's stories focus on the lives of the women with whom she works, including those who pay a heavy price for converting to Christianity.  She also writes of the young girls she rescues from temple slavery.   She passionately pleads for a change of heart among Christians; urging people to truly pray for and care for the lives and souls of others.

We are told to modify things, not to write too vividly, never to harrow sensitive hearts. Friends, we cannot modify truth, we cannot write half vividly enough; and as for harrowing hearts, oh that we could do it! That we could tear them up, that they might pour out like water! that we could see hands lifted up towards God for the life of these young children! Oh, to care, and oh for power to make others care, not less but far, far more! care till our eyes do fail with tears for the destruction of the daughters of our people! (Kindle location 2730).

Praying alone is not enough, but oh for more real praying! We are playing at praying, and caring, and coming; playing at doing—if doing costs—playing at everything but play. We are earnest enough about that. God open our eyes and convict us of our insincerity! burn out the superficial in us, make us intensely in earnest!  Kindle location 2815).

Though more than a century old, Things as They Are is remarkably relevant and convicting.

Things as They Are

21 October 2012

Snippets: Beyond the Hole in the Wall: Discover the Power of Self-Organized Learning

At the supermarket, you can’t tell if the cashier knows arithmetic or not. Your groceries are scanned electronically and the prices tallied automatically. Yet the cashier probably still performs his work capably. Arithmetic is an outdated life skill, like swordplay or horse riding. Four hundred years ago, those were vital life skills; today they are relics of a bygone world and primarily enjoyed as sports. (Kindle location 70)

  Beyond the Hole in the Wall: Discover the Power of Self-Organized Learning (Kindle Single) (TED Books)

20 October 2012

Snippets- Smile: The Astonishing Powers of a Simple Act

Smile:  The Astonishing Powers of a Simple Act is a short book published by the TED foundation.  Ron Gutman combines experiences from his cross-cultural experiences with scientific research about the benefits of smiling.  He highlights the individual and social benefits of smiling.  The book is easy to read, presenting a variety of research in an entertaining way, interspersed with numerous anecdotes.  Summarizing the main points of the book, Gutman writes:
"We’ve already established that big, genuine smiles make us feel better inside. Smiling this way activates the emotional processing centers of our brains and produces real, tangible pleasure that we can experience and enjoy. Not only do we feel good, we also look good to others around us. We’re perceived to be more friendly, sociable, trustworthy, and even more competent. When others see us smiling, they see us in a better light, and they instinctively and instantaneously mimic our smiles. This smile activates the emotional processing centers of their brains and makes them feel better. It also strengthens our connection to them and improves our social interactions. If common sense didn’t tell us this already, researchers from Yale University and UC Berkeley have confirmed that smiling sends others on their way, feeling better and carrying smiles with them, to start again the same feedback loop with others. Smiling is “viral” indeed!" (Kindle location 770)

The book also includes Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch's teaching on the power of smiling:
A smile costs nothing, but gives much. It enriches those who receive, without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor but that he can be made rich by it. A smile creates happiness in the home, fosters goodwill in business, and is the countersign of friendship. It brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and is nature’s best antidote for trouble, yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen. For it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.  (Kindle location 395)

The book is concise and interesting, and as I read, I found myself wanting to smile.

Smile: The Astonishing Powers of a Simple Act (Kindle Single) (TED Books)

15 October 2012

Snippets: A Girl and Her Money

What is financial success anyway?  Financial success...is this:  being content with what you have.  That being true, financial success is not a constant for all.  It has more to do with the head and the heart and less with the wallet and the balance sheet.  (epub edition, 73)

Never say, "I can't afford it."  This implies that you would normally spend all the money you have, and the only reason you aren't buying is because you are completely broke.  Watch your money language.  Better to speak from a position of strength: "I choose not to spend my money this way because this thing is not a priority now, or maybe ever" (epub edition, 90)

Generosity is a means of grace.  It lets us know who we are.  Giving forces us to define our priorities.  It promotes patience and discipline.  Generosity wars against greed (epub edition, 199).

Shannon Durling:  A Girl and Her Money

14 October 2012

Snippets: Made for Happiness

In Made for Happiness:  Discovering the Meaning of Life with Aristotle Jean Vanier synthesizes major concepts in Aristolte's philosophy.  He focuses on extracting wisdom from Aristotle's writings that can be applied to everyday life.  The discussion is concise and focused, considering what is necessary to live a full, rich human life.
     Vanier begins by outlining Aristotle's concept of happiness, and then proceeds to discuss the nature of friendship, truth, and virtue.  In a final, short chapter, Vanier describes the weaknesses in Aristotle's philosophy, particularly regarding the sanctity of all human life, and the nature of our relationship with God.
     Vanier quotes often from Aristotle throughout the book, but also intersperses his own wise, thoughtful commentary.
     Some highlights from the book:
"There is no way of becoming just, wise, and good other than through the actual exercise of these virtues through the daily regulation of our spontaneous desires by the logos.  'States of character arise out of activities.  This is why the activities we exhibit must be of a certain kind' (NE 1103b20).  Temperate action gradually creates the virtue of temperance.  In order to become accomplished and mature, a man needs good dispositions, among them good health and a good education.  He needs to have opted definitely for a good life and true happiness, and desire to progress towards that end; this involves work on himself, effort and struggle in order to look clearly into himself and orient his passions towards the best goal.  Become a mature human being takes time." (epub edition, 283)

From the chapter on friendship:  "Here, Aristotle provides us with some very interesting criteria for discernment.  He distinguishes between three sorts of friendship:  true friendship centred on the good of the other, which is fully deserving of the name friendship; friendship based on what is pleasant; and friendship based on usefulness.  These are the three motives that can inspire friendship" (epub edition, 135).

"In Aristotle's definition, happiness is not therefore a state, but a vital activity proceeding from within each human being.  Happiness, for Aristotle, is not the lot of someone who peacefully and comfortably enjoys his possessions, who is content with his family, work, success, riches, and honours, or is satisfied with himself.  Happiness is a vital activity that brings immense joy and that is life.  It is the completely joyous activity of one who is entirely, with his intelligence and whole being, oriented towards that which is nobler and greater than himself.  This life that is an activity, however, implies that we first work on ourselves.  It involves study and discipline" (epub edition, 60)

Made for Happiness: Discovering the Meaning of Life with Aristotle


12 October 2012

Snippets: Unused Prayer


What does unused prayer look like?  Anxiety.  Instead of connecting with God, our spirits fly around like severed power lines, destroying everything they touch.  Anxiety wants to be God, but lacks God’s wisdom, power, or knowledge.  A godlike stance without godlike character and ability is pure tension.  Because anxiety is self on its own, it tries to get control.  It is unable to relax in the face of chaos.  Once one problem is solved, the net in line steps up.  The new one looms so large, we forget the last deliverance.

Paul Miller, A Praying Life, 70

A Praying Life: Connecting With God In A Distracting World

07 October 2012

Snippets: The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness

By comparing ourselves to other people and trying to make ourselves look better than others, we are boasting. Trying to recommend ourselves, trying to create a self-esteem résumé because we are desperate to fill our sense of inadequacy and emptiness. The ego is so busy. So busy all the time. (Kindle location 177).

The Freedom of Self Forgetfulness

21 September 2012

Snippets: Good to Great

In contrast to the very I-centric leaders of the comparison leaders, we were struck by how the good-to-great leaders didn’t talk about themselves.… When pressed to talk about themselves, they’d say things like, “I hope I’m not sounding like a big shot.” … Those who worked or wrote about the good-to-great leaders continually used words like quiet, humble, modest, reserved, shy, gracious, mild-mannered, self-effacing, understated, did not believe his own clippings; and so forth.… The good-to-great leaders never wanted to become larger-than-life heroes. They never aspired to be put on a pedestal or become unreachable icons. They were seemingly normal people quietly producing extraordinary results. (27-28)

Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap... and Others Don't

16 September 2012

Snippets: Living Gently in a Violent World

I'm not interested in doing a good job.  I am interested in an ecclesial vision for community.  We are brothers and sisters, and Jesus is calling us from the pyramid to become a body.
-Jean Vanier

Living Gently in a Violent World: The Prophetic Witness of Weakness (Resources for Reconciliation)